Who do you feed?

My cousin Cathy mentioned the book the Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands on her blog a while back. I've checked it out from the library and have been reading it. I consider myself a pretty decent wife but one of my new years resolutions was to be a better one. Reading this book accompanied with falling down the stairs (causing Steven to have to take care of me) has really helped me have a greater appreciation for my husband. However, this is not what this post is about.

Today, while trying to escape my immense boredom I read this from the book.

"A grandfather was talking to his grandson. 'Grandson,' he said, 'there are two wolves living in my heart and they are at war with each other. One is vicious and cruel, the other is wise and kind.'
'Grandfather,' said the alarmed grandson, 'which one will win?'
'The one I feed,' said the grandfather."

This week I have been feeding the wolf that is bored, and feeling self pity. I'm not in a lot of pain but I'm just annoyed that I can't do all the things I want to do. I feel like I'm completely wasting my time. I know many people that have very negative wolves living inside of them and by gossiping, or concentrating on the negative they are feeding the vicious and cruel wolf and he will be the one to win. Everyone has their negative days, the days when they are just so angry and frustrated that all they can focus on is the bad. There are many days in my own life that I go to bed after the cruel wolf has won a battle. I hate to see my friends and family tear themselves apart by feeding this negative energy inside of them. I hope that I can be better at feeding the kind wolf and become a stronger and more positive person. I also hope that this post will help those that I love and care about do the same. It is hard on me to see them unknowingly hurting themselves but I imagine it is MUCH more painful for them.